Your notion of what it means to be competent has a powerful effect on how competent you feel. Fear of failure is much more likely if your metric of success is achieving perfection, given that perfection is impossible. So, change your metric for success.

Design an alternative definition of success that supports your learning/performance/experience better, that is achievable, and that is within your control, e.g. always doing your best or staying relaxed and calm. If you stick to this performance habit, you can trust that the outcomes will follow. 

 

Every evening, think of:

-              Something you are proud of

-              Something you’ve learned

-              Something that you are grateful for, and 

-              Reflect on whether you did your best to remain [insert metric for success].